Friday, November 13, 2015

Great Example and Lesson About TOV

The following story was shared on Facebook. It is a great example and lesson about TOV.

In Crown Heights, there was a Jew, Yankel, who owned a bakery. He survived the camps. He once said, “You know why it is that I’m alive today? I was a kid, just a teenager at the time. We were on the train, in a boxcar, being taken to Auschwitz. Night came and it was freezing, deathly cold, in that boxcar. The Germans would leave the cars on the side of the tracks overnight, sometimes for days on end without any food, and of course, no blankets to keep us warm,” he said.

“Sitting next to me was an older Jew – this beloved elderly Jew - from my hometown I recognized, but I had never seen him like this. He was shivering from head to toe, and looked terrible. So I wrapped my arms around him and began rubbing him, to warm him up. I rubbed his arms, his legs, his face, his neck. I begged him to hang on. All night long; I kept the man warm this way. I was tired, I was freezing cold myself, my fingers were numb, but I didn’t stop rubbing the heat on to this man’s body. Hours and hours went by this way.

Finally, night passed, morning came, and the sun began to shine. There was some warmth in the cabin, and then I looked around the car to see some of the other Jews in the car. To my horror, all I could see were frozen bodies, and all I could hear was a deathly silence.

Nobody else in that cabin made it through the night – they died from the frost. Only two people survived: the old man and me… The old man survived because somebody kept him warm; I survived because I was warming somebody else…”

Let me tell you the secret of Judaism. When you warm other people’s hearts, you remain warm yourself. When you seek to support, encourage and inspire others; then you discover support, encouragement and inspiration in your own life as well. That, my friends, is “Judaism 101”.


Tuesday, October 27, 2015

A Bar\Bat Mitzvah is not a day, it’s a life!

One of the things I love to do is, offer an alternative Bar\Bat experience not only for children with special needs, but also for children (and their parents) who truly want to be part of a meaningful Rite of Passage. For so many children and their families, this has become a Riteless Passage and Passageless Rite exiting the Bar\Bat Mitzvah Mill. Large numbers of these post-Bar\Bat mitzvah vets will not set foot in a synagogue again until necessary.

My students love the one on one instruction and their parents enjoy and share in the learning as well. Sometimes we delve into deep issues, questions of life and death, about God, about the Bible and the stories being told. I was engaged in just such a discussion with a young lady, who decided to become Bat Mitzvah a few years older than the normal age. She was struggling with exactly what the notion of being a Bat Mitzvah is and its meaning. We came to an insight that I wanted to share. The best way to understand this rite is that it is not just the day -- it's all the choices and consequences which come after that day.

A Bar\Bat Mitzvah is not a day -- it's a life.

It is the obligation to take responsibility for the decisions that will be made, just like like a grown up adult.

It is the taking on of the self-obligation to act for the good of the community as well as for your own.

In order for someone to make these very important choices and decisions there must be a Values Standard. She just happened to pick the Creation Narrative which contains the TOV STANDARD for her D'var Torah (her interpretation and teaching on the story). She echoed her teacher and said, "Must be a good reason they started the whole Bible with the TOV Standard." (It does a rabbi's heart good.)

She may not remember the Ten Commandments, or the words of the Prophets, but she now has a Standard of Values for making TOV decisions and choices. The Sages teach, that every person should repent (do Teshuvah, process of reconciliation and repair of relationships) the day before one's death! Since we don't know when that day is, the message is, that should be every day.

Becoming Bar\Bat Mitzvah may begin on a particular day, but the process and the journey continues throughout our lives. Every day, we stand before the Tree of Knowledge of TOV and RAH, Good and Evil, Life and Death -- Choose Life by Doing TOV Every Day!

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Rabbi Jeffrey Leynor


Thursday, October 15, 2015

A Tool to Find Banks that Invest in the Local Economy

The reasons to choose a community bank or credit union range from getting the same services at a lower cost to supporting productive investment instead of speculative trading. But while it’s one thing to think about the qualities that are important in our banks, it’s another to find particular local banks that are enacting them. A new tool, called Bank Local, aims to make that process easier. Bank Local maps every banking institution in the U.S., and uses data from three federal agencies, plus its own algorithm, to assign them a Local Impact Rating. Users can type their address into a bar on the site’s homepage, and find a map and list of how nearby financial institutions compare. Read the complete article and find the link to the “Bank Local” tool at -- https://ilsr.org/a-tool-to-find-banks-that-invest-in-the-local-economy/

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Parents Teach Your Children TOV!

I was scrolling through FB the other day and I came upon a wonderful video I had to share. The story takes place in Thailand. Briefly, a mother who is a fruit vender with a cart, with no education appears to be scratching out a living. Her little daughter sees other children enjoying ice cream, but there is no money for her to do the same. Her mother shows her how to cut a pineapple and to make a pop which is put on ice. Her daughter suggests selling them. She takes her pops to the market, but no one buys.

When the girl returned discouraged, her mother tells her this -- go to the market and watch what the other sellers do and you see the little light go on! She did and then she ran home and made her signs and started calling out her wares -- and she was successful. Her mother, whom I'm sure was wondering what she could she possibly teach her daughter, said, "Someday, when I am no longer here, I know she will be just fine."

A recent survey asked a group of younger parents what they felt the role of a parent should be. There were some surprising answers.

A number responded that they wanted to make their children happy, some said to be their best friend, others talked about providing, a few spoke about religion and family values.

I found it interesting that no one answered, "To make sure my children can take care of themselves when I'm not here, to provide them with a Values Standard, by living it ourselves, that will enable them to make good decisions for themselves and for others."

The mother in the video also stressed the importance of being able to solve problems on our own. Helping people evaluate a situation, look for the best options and taking action, is part of Empowered Decision Making!

What does this have to do with TOV? Well, to be TOV, Words Thoughts and Actions must PROTECT LIFE, PRESERVE LIFE MAKE LIFE MORE FUNCTIONAL AND INCREASE THE QUALITY OF LIFE. All of those things were reflected in the actions of that little girl's mother.

TOV belongs not only in the spiritual realm, but in the practical one as well – after all TOV is about Life, all parts of Life!

So parents, Teach Your Children TOV!
Rabbi Jeffrey Leynor


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Seeing TOV at Work

Many people ask me about the work Jim Myers and I are doing with the TOV Center. We have already created educational material and products geared to the Social Media experience, which is an ongoing process. We are developing an awesome new website and connecting with a variety of very talented and creative people. It's all very exciting!

The TOV Concept can be adopted and adapted to any number of projects and programs. But how does TOV work? Here are three already functioning examples. In the last three days, I've re-posted some real TOV opportunities. The first is called The Pending Coffee. This started in Naples, Italy. People pay in anticipation for the coffees and even meals for others who can't. Paying it forward. Second, a nursing home in Seattle with a childcare center inside provides activities with the seniors and the kids. It's a win-win situation. The children learn about the elderly, can listen to their stories and in turn, the seniors benefit from the kid's energy, joy and companionship. The third project was about  rooftop gardening and the rich compost comes from food waste from the local mall. The food waste helps grow food utilizing unused space and provides food for the community. 

So many people have commented about what great ideas these and others are. Well, one of the things TOV Center does is bring collectives of people together who want to put these plans into action. These are people who are committed to a set of TOV Values and participate in face to face relationships to solve specific needs for the Common Good!

I hope this sheds some light on just one important aspect of our work.
Rabbi Jeffrey Leynor

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Monday, October 12, 2015

Can you stay focused for longer than 5 seconds?

“The average attention span at present is just 5 seconds long. Ten years ago it was 12 minutes.”

(1) How does a decreased attention span affect relationships between people, the quality of life, or the ability of people to acquire knowledge?  

(2) Does it make people more frustrated?

(3) Is it addicting people to social media?

(4) Does it make people easier to control and manipulate?

(5) What affect will this have on children as they enter adulthood?

(6) Is this simply the result of the advancing technology or by design?


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Sunday, October 11, 2015

What does the word “religion” mean?

For about fifty years now it has been clear in the academy that there is no universal way to define religion. In the West we see “religion” as a coherent system of obligatory beliefs, institutions, and rituals, centering on a supernatural God, whose    practice is essentially private and hermetically sealed off from all “secular” activities. But words in other languages that we translate as “religion” almost invariably refer to something larger, vaguer, and more encompassing. Read the complete blog at -- http://biblicalheritagecenter.blogspot.com/2015/10/what-does-word-religion-mean.html